Ceremony Rituals




Congratulations!  My name is Reverend Tanya Young and I would be honored to be a part of your wedding day here on the Outer Banks of North Carolina.  I am a native North Carolinian and have lived here since I was 3 years old when my family moved from Greensboro, NC.  I raised my two daughters here who both hold a deep respect for the area and its people.  My daughter, Reverend Tanya Barkley-Graham, also joins me in performing ceremonies.

We are both non-denominational officiants/celebrants offering non-traditional spiritual ceremonies that are touched with scripture or prayer, as well as non-religious ceremonies that are focused on love and commitment.

I am the writer in the family and will be the one working with you on the ceremony.  I am passionate about creating a truly special ceremony that will become a treasured memory for you and your guests and embrace your wedding day as a joyful and defining moment which marks the beginning of your new life together.  I will assist in creating a ceremony rich with personal touches reflecting the couples culture, personality and spirituality and will listen carefully to what has meaning to you.  I welcome contributions from my couples, making the ceremony a reflection of you.  You may choose to write your own vows or add certain readings that are special to you as a couple.  You may choose to have a guest participate in offering a reading, blessing or song.

Very often couples that seek our services are not comfortable with traditional church affiliation and desire a meaningful spiritual alternative.  Although Rev. Barkley- Graham and I are spiritual, we do not require that you share our views. My goal, as the writer, is to create a ceremony that touches the hearts of you and your guests and speaks to your joined personality – an extension of you both. I hold each ceremony to the utmost dignity without giving up the relaxed celebratory mood of the occasion in our various beautiful outside locations. When creating your ceremony, I will blend all types of backgrounds into one formal moment.

It is my belief that second marriages and blended families deserve the same care and reverence as the first one. I often add special additions for children, such as the Family Sand Ceremony, which gives then a real hands-on experience and includes them in the actual wedding ceremony.  You also may choose to present them with a small gift- a necklace or ring or something that is an important family statement.  Renewing vows at monumental anniversaries, or just to recommit to each other, are events that deserve the same type of reverence and dignity.  Often couples choose to do this during family vacation time which often includes children, grandchildren and special friends.

I base my life and work on the perspective best voiced by Francis David, a wise teacher from the 16th century.  “We need not believe alike to love alike.  We are all humans, being and becoming, and our spirits connect on a deeper level than the superficial differences of personal theology, lifestyle, economic status or profession.  I believe in a spirituality of HOPE, not that “I sure hope it’s a sunny day,” kind of approach but a radical way of living that says, YES, no matter how difficult times may get; no matter how bleak the day; I will live as if there can be something better.  I will live as if I believe that GOOD will triumph over its opposite and LOVE will win out over fear.”

I look forward to hearing from you and getting to know you better.


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